The Demand in America to become a Parent

Been trying to reblog this, but my comment’s obviously been FAAAAAAAAR too long to fit into what WP can handle, so I’m giving up ‘n’ adding my comment in on the reblog once it’s finally happened (it’s the first comment).

A Few Pieces Missing From Normalcy - An Infertile Man's Perspective

In our society there is ignorance (being uninformed) on many topics that lead to problems others suffer from. As a child I was unfairly stereotyped as a learning disabled child who should be coddled rather than challenged. The ignorance there was board of education leaders not understanding that every child is different. If it weren’t for my parents I would have suffered by never being challenged.

Now as an adult dealing with infertility with my wife we are dealing with a different type of societal ignorance and that is being childless. Time Magazine has published an article about those who choose to live a ChildFree lifestyle. While the article does hit on some key points how times have changed it does miss on other aspects such as missing the class of women who are childless by circumstance not by choice.

Pamela Tsigdinos a blogger an author of the book…

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Another great pic by Kate Dahlquist


Just a wee bit snarky today…

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By TAO

(note that no one is making you read this – and if it doesn’t apply to you then you’re good…)

I’m tired…

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Unlawful Slavery abolished … to usher in Lawful Slavery

Q: How was Unlawful Slavery abolished?
{quote}A: By making it lawful and a function of State, via various for political and social changes.{quote} By turning it into adoption.

Not that that’s the thrust of this post, but it’s a highly relevant read for those who’re wondering why some of us adoptees compare adoption with slavery.

The Epinoiasphere

Ask any one if slavery has been abolished, and I would suggest that the overwhelming response would be a resounding “Yes!”.

But has it? Before we can answer that question, it would pay to define the word ‘abolish’;

a·bol·ish     /əˈbäliSH/   verb.

Formally put an end to (a system, practice, or institution)

Seems self explanatory: to abolish means to formally put and end to a practice, which is wholly consistent with what we believe to have happened.

 

So now let us see if what we believe is echoed in the political reality, for which we turn our attention to the official record of Parliament, that being, Hansard.

Mr Wilberforce, House of Commons, 13 June 1815 Hansard Vol 31   [link]

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Many of his friends who then heard him would remember that, during the various discussions upon the abolition of the Slave-trade, it was constantly urged…

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Unlawful Slavery abolished … to usher in Lawful Slavery

Q: How was Unlawful Slavery abolished?
{quote}A: By making it lawful and a function of State, via various for political and social changes.{/quote} By turning it into adoption.

Not that that’s the thrust of this post, but it’s a highly relevant read for those who’re wondering why some of us adoptees compare adoption with slavery.

The Epinoiasphere

Ask any one if slavery has been abolished, and I would suggest that the overwhelming response would be a resounding “Yes!”.

But has it? Before we can answer that question, it would pay to define the word ‘abolish’;

a·bol·ish     /əˈbäliSH/   verb.

Formally put an end to (a system, practice, or institution)

Seems self explanatory: to abolish means to formally put and end to a practice, which is wholly consistent with what we believe to have happened.

 

So now let us see if what we believe is echoed in the political reality, for which we turn our attention to the official record of Parliament, that being, Hansard.

Mr Wilberforce, House of Commons, 13 June 1815 Hansard Vol 31   [link]

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Many of his friends who then heard him would remember that, during the various discussions upon the abolition of the Slave-trade, it was constantly urged…

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Transracialeyes

Elsewhere on the site we have explored the “cost” of adoptee activism [ link ], and we have heard some stories of closed-down blogs and the like. Certain adoptee sites have erased past posts, or willingly avoid or openly mock the so-called “radical” in acts of self-censorship. Much of this is in the realm of our so-called rights of agency, such as free speech, opinion, etc.

What happens though when this line is crossed in a more dangerous way? I know of adoptees who fear for their lives for speaking out. I have been privy locally to adoptees whose activism has resulted in vague threats to “stop poking around”. I take these warnings very seriously, personally speaking.

At the Adoption Initiatives Conference at St. John’s University in New York in October, Ambassador Susan Jacobs, Special Advisor to the Secretary for Children’s Issues, U.S. Department of State stated that the term…

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Life, Adopted

I was fortunate recently to spend time in person with an online friend. She is an optimistic, energetic, positive and inspiring woman. Being around her is like being around an intense shot of firey, bright sunshine.  She is also a mother who relinquished her child for adoption. As we sat in a diner on a cold afternoon sipping hot, comforting beverages and swapping stories, I found myself wondering why the most basic human compassion is so often not offered within the context of crisis pregnancy, infertility and adoption.

My friend conceived under not-ideal circumstances. Taking in her words and seeing her tears as she spoke so honestly with me, I couldn’t help but note that while not-ideal, her circumstances had not been horrendously dire or insurmountable. A little bit of basic human compassion–a simple offer of help, a word of encouragement–could have empowered her to overcome the barriers. Those offers…

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