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Reliquishment in Pictures.

Another Version of Mother

Jenna posed the question;

“Was Your Relinquishment Day happy?”

(If you want the full story behind this question, see her post).  If the question applies to you, go answer the poll she has.

Ever since she asked, I have been trying to convince myself that I could write about the day I handed The Kiddo over to his Adoptive Parents. As I sit here and type this, I am still trying to convince myself that I can write it out.  Unfortunately, I can’t go there yet.  That day, was the toughest, the hardest, the lowest, most soul sucking, saddest day of my life. In order to write about it, I’d have to explore those unmentionable feelings, the ones that have yet to find a name for in our language. I cannot relive those moments at this point and time.

I can, however, show you my answer.

On June 1st, 2003…

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When Adoptions Fail

Revelations

I read a shocking report by Reuters about  adoptive parents who use the Internet to find new homes for children they no longer want.

The article is the first in a five-part series by Reuters that examines America’s underground market for adopted children. According to the report, parents are so eager to unload their kids that they hand them off to people they barely know. No screenings required. How horrible and dangerous for the children.

Children adopted from overseas are especially vulnerable to these unauthorized exchanges. As the article points out, Americans often don’t know what they’re getting into when they adopt children from other countries. They don’t know the child’s complete history. When problems arise at home, parents don’t have a support system in place. Bailing out seems like the best option for some desperate parents.

Adopting a child is not like purchasing a big-screen TV. You can’t take…

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Age range? Siblings?

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It now feels important that the child/children I adopt fit in (as far as they can) with my wider family, nephews included, and friends
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Another Mountain

One of the things I have been doing while I have been waiting (apart from waiting for the postman, rushing to the phone everytime it rings and checking my email several times per day) is reflecting and thinking.

As I stated in my first post, I made an initial enquiry almost 4 years ago. Then my life was very different. My bro and SIL had just had their first child who was a baby. I was considering adopting (if as a single person it was allowed) two school age children as that age group was where I had the most experience. Toddlers and small children, quite frankly, were a bit boring. My small nephew though gorgeous, was just a baby, he didn’t do much and I had no real relationship with him. I also wasn’t particularly close to my brother or sister in law.

Now things are very different. I…

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Why Adopt?


Dear Adoptive Parent Community…

The adopted ones blog

By TAO

With several recent public cases in the news, and others within the last couple of years involving adopting or adoptive parents, what better time than now to start conversations and make a difference for the future.

Are you, as adoptive parents tired of people thinking (or saying) that adoptive parents are baby stealers or abusers?  Then stand up and get angry when you see adopting or adoptive parents or agencies behaving badly…

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Another great pic by Kate Dahlquist


Just a wee bit snarky today…

The adopted ones blog

By TAO

(note that no one is making you read this – and if it doesn’t apply to you then you’re good…)

I’m tired…

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